What Are the Signs That a Military Family Is Struggling Due to PTSD?

Recognizing when a military family is struggling with PTSD requires understanding both individual symptoms and family-wide behavioral changes. Here are key warning signs to watch for when managing the effects of PTSD on military families:

• Changes in the Service Member: The affected individual may display increased irritability, anger outbursts, or emotional numbness. Feeling constantly on edge, feeling irritable, and having difficulty sleeping or concentrating are all possible signs of PTSD.
• Family Communication Breakdown: Getting along and communicating may be harder than usual. Conversations become strained or avoided entirely, with family members reporting they feel like they’re walking on eggshells.
• Changes in Family Routines and Social Life: Families often begin to isolate themselves, decline invitations, or avoid social gatherings. Previously enjoyed family traditions or activities may be abandoned. The family’s schedule might revolve around accommodating PTSD symptoms, such as avoiding crowded places or loud events.
• Impact on Children: Children may exhibit behavioral regression, such as bed-wetting or thumb-sucking, in younger kids. Academic performance often declines, and teachers might report behavioral problems, aggression, or withdrawal.
• Spouse and Partner Warning Signs: The non-military spouse may develop their own symptoms of anxiety or depression. They might exhibit caregiver fatigue, expressing feelings of being overwhelmed or helpless.
• Financial and Practical Struggles: PTSD can affect work performance, leading to job instability or loss. Medical expenses may increase due to treatment needs or related health issues.

What Challenges Do Spouses and Partners of Veterans Commonly Face?

Spouses and partners of veterans face a unique set of challenges that can be overwhelming and isolating. These difficulties extend far beyond typical relationship stressors and can have profound impacts on their mental health and overall well-being.

• Secondary Traumatic Stress: One explanation of partners’ problems is secondary traumatization. This refers to the indirect impact of trauma on those close to the survivor, which trauma-informed care can help manage.
• Living in Survival Mode: Partners often describe feeling constantly on edge, never knowing what might trigger their veteran’s symptoms. They learn to monitor moods, scan for warning signs, and adjust their behavior to prevent episodes.
• Emotional and Relationship Strain: The emotional distance that often accompanies PTSD can leave partners feeling rejected, unloved, and isolated within their relationship.
• Loss of Identity and Independence: Many partners find their entire life revolving around their veteran’s needs and symptoms. They may give up careers, hobbies, or social connections to provide care and support.
• Social Isolation and Stigma: Partners often experience profound loneliness as they may avoid social situations that could trigger their veteran’s symptoms. They might feel unable to explain their situation to friends and family who don’t understand military culture or PTSD.
• Financial and Practical Burdens: PTSD can affect a veteran’s ability to work consistently, placing additional economic pressure on the partner. They may become the primary or sole breadwinner while also serving as the primary caregiver.
• Lack of Support and Understanding: Severe mental pressure and insufficient social support can lead to depression and spiritual pain in PTSD veterans’ spouses.